Women ask me all the time, where can I go to meet quality single men?
I suggest they date online, go to Meetup groups and singles events or even hire a matchmaker. But I also tell them to just look around.
Quality single men are EVERYWHERE!
But it’s really hard to meet them, right?
Wouldn’t it be amazing if attractive single men walked right up to you at the grocery store, on the street, at the gym or at happy hour to say hello and then asked you out?
Believe it or not, there’s a simple way to make that happen.
Let me tell you a little story about my former client, Janet…
At 40, Janet had never been approached or asked out in a social setting (like a party, happy hour, etc.). I’m talking NEVER, which is odd since Janet is very attractive and super nice.
When a client tells me she never gets approached, I know there’s something about the way she carries herself that’s giving off the signal: stay away.
I figured that was the case with Janet, so I challenged her to give something new a try.
That evening, she was going to happy hour with coworkers. I asked her if she would try an experiment. She said “sure”!
I asked Janet to SMILE at happy hour like she’s never smiled before.
I told her to smile if she was talking to someone and also if she was listening to them speak. I told her to smile even if she was standing alone. I told Janet I expected the muscles in her cheeks to ache from smiling so much. You get the picture. 🙂
We pinky-sweared, and she left my office. That night Janet went to happy hour with orders to smile like nobody’s business.
The next morning, my phone rang at 8:30 AM. It was Janet, and she was excited!
“You’re not going to believe what happened last night!” she said. “I met two really attractive nice guys, and they both ASKED ME OUT! And a third guy told me I was the most approachable person in the bar!”
At 40, Janet had finally been approached. And better yet, asked out. Twice.
A smile was all it took.
And just so you know, Janet wasn’t dressed up or even wearing make-up (which I don’t recommend – I’m all about the cute outfit and being feminine). It’s important to note that all she did differently was SMILE, and two super cute guys approached her and asked her out!
Wouldn’t it be awesome if that could happen to you?
Is your resting face a scowl, lol? Or do you stare at your phone more than you make eye contact with people when you’re out and about?
Here’s what I want you to try…
The next time you’re at a happy hour or party (or even at Starbucks, the dry cleaner, the grocery store or on the Metro), SMILE a lot!
I know from personal experience that it works. When I was single, I met great men everywhere I went – even just walking down the street! What can I say, I’m a smiler!
And I treat everyone around me like they’re already my friends. I do my very best to share my warmth and kindness wherever I go, and you should too.
I compliment strangers (just yesterday I told some guy I loved his pink sweater).
I say “hello”.
I join in conversations (people are usually nice – no one’s given me a dirty look yet).
I have FUN with people, and I smile a lot too.
Smiling is THE BEST way to break the ice, invite others to talk with you and to show you’re warm, kind and open to meeting someone.
So go practice, and please let me know how it goes! I truly believe that a smile can change your life.
After all, if I hadn’t smiled at my husband six years ago in a crowded restaurant, he never would have come over to say “hello”!
Have an awesome smiley day!