Single and Lonely? Here’s My Advice…

Single dating love advice

This year, I spent the July 4th weekend on the Eastern Shore of Maryland celebrating with family and friends and had a BLAST!

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But I remember a time a few years back, just after my divorce, when holidays were a bit tough. I remember one 4th of July pool party where I sat watching all the happy families swimming and barbecuing. I was single and lonely and felt like the odd-girl-out. I longed for someone to share life’s special times with.

Fast forward a few years, and now I find myself sharing holidays (and regular-old-days) with two really special guys, my hubby Rob, and our son Easton.

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Before I met Rob, in those moments when I felt lonely, I never stopped believing that someday I’d have an amazing partner to share holidays with. I knew he was out there, and I never gave up.

I dated, dated and dated. I had relationships that taught me a lot and helped me to grow as a person. They weren’t all easy, but they were important. And then, when the time was right, I met this cute dude at a bar (and the rest is history).

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I’m actually glad it took me a few years to find Rob. In those years, I figured out how to embrace and enjoy being single. I didn’t wait around to have fun – I decided to live life in the moment, and boy did I! Those were some of the best years of my life!

If you’ve read my posts in the past, you know I’m all about having FUN! You can’t put life on hold just because you haven’t found your partner yet. You’ve gotta get out there and grab life by the you-know-whats!

I even wrote an article about enjoying single life, and you can find it here: 12 Reasons Being Single is Effing Awesome!

Are you having enough fun?

Take a moment to think about what (and who) gives you joy. What makes you smile? What makes you happy?

And make THAT a priority right now – because that person or that activity is just as important as work, your errands and all of your responsibilities.

Open up your calendar and set aside some time just for you –time that you know will make you smile and feel more peaceful and lighthearted. Schedule your “happy time” like it’s an important appointment, and do it on a regular basis!

Throughout my busy work calendar I sprinkle in tennis lessons, lunch with friends, long walks and even trips because I know that when I take care of myself, I have so much more to give to others.

 And another word of advice…

Don’t ever give up on LOVE!

Make time to date, meet new people and have fun while you’re doing it! Create a life that’s full and fabulous, and “the one” will show up when the time is right.

And in the meantime, enjoy every single day (pardon the pun)!

Lost time is never found again. ~Benjamin Franklin

xo,

Michelle

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